David Coats

Is Someone’s Jealousy Hurting You?

“Anger [rage, hostility, vexation] is cruel, and fury [violent anger, uncontrolled temper] [is] overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?” Proverbs 27:4

Being the victim of someone’s jealousy can take many different forms:

Have you ever been drawn into a jealousy debacle that you did not choose to be a part of but wish to be freed from? We have.

Have you wondered about the constant condemnation from a family member or friend? We have.

Have you been mystified about someone’s trying to “one-up” you all the time? We have.

In your efforts to please, have you been crushed under the weight of someone’s constant lack of gratitude? We have.

Why does someone use “joking” to criticize you and to hurt you? We have been the brunt of “joking.”

These questions are many times answered because you are experiencing the outrageous hurt of someone’s jealousy. Let’s look to scripture for some examples of others who were deeply affected by jealousy.

First, I Samuel 18 gives us a story of Saul and David.  The people responded to David’s success as a general of the armies of Israel: “Saul has slain his thousands; David has slain his ten thousands.”  Unfortunately, Saul could have enjoyed David’s success and could have benefited from David’s integrity as a leader. But instead, Saul became insanely jealous of David and did not trust David.  Saul then plotted ways to hurt David in order to bring him down. Initially, Saul was not trying to eliminate David, but progressively his jealousy drove him to constantly focus on the destruction of David. In Saul’s jealous pursuit, he lost David as a general, and he lost the admiration of his people.

What did jealousy look like in this story?  The goal was to hurt David; Saul did not trust him; Saul did not like him; Saul did not allow his son and others to befriend David; eventually jealousy skewed Saul’s view of David, thinking David would take over the kingdom.  Jealousy messes with the mind, making its focus the demise of another person. Jealousy drove Saul to a desire to murder David.

Second, Genesis 37 and following share the story of Joseph.  He was the object of jealousy. Let’s review the story: Because Jacob’s sons were jealous of their father’s favoritism for Joseph exacerbated by Joseph’s explanation of his dream, Joseph’s brothers threw him in a pit, intending to end his life. Joseph traveled to Egypt in chains, and he ended his journey as a slave.  How Joseph responded to this jealousy marks his story as unique, special, and God-honoring.  But we will come back to this story later.

What did jealousy look like in this story? Several brothers came to the point of wanting to murder their brother; family members suffered greatly at the perceived loss of a son; Joseph suffered over many years because of jealousy.

What else does the Bible say about jealousy? Let’s be honest about the evil nature of jealousy.

Job 5:2, Jealousy slays the fool.

Proverbs 6:34, A jealous husband will take revenge.

Proverbs 14:30, Jealousy is like cancer in the bones.

Matthew 20:15,  When God is generous to some, others become jealous.

Romans 13:13, Don’t participate in wild parties and drunkenness, or in sexual promiscuity and immoral living, or in quarreling and jealousy.

2 Corinthians 12:20, Paul is afraid that he will find quarreling, jealousy, anger, selfishness, slander, gossip, arrogance, and disorderly behavior in the church.

Galatians 5:20, Jealousy is one of the works of the flesh.

Let’s give you a solid, biblical idea of what drives jealousy:

Jealousy is rooted in a desire for what I don’t have. It is sourced in a desire for what others do have. It smells of control. “I must have this kind of car, house, or family.” Jealousy is linked to fear, selfishness, self-love, and self-pity. Jealousy lacks joy in the success of others. Jealousy lacks satisfaction in God. It is often driven by what I think I deserve and what I must have or else. Thinking that something else will bring satisfaction or pleasure or happiness besides what God has given us will take us down the road of jealousy. It is also related to covetousness. But jealousy takes covetousness to a new level, desiring harm or hurt or sadness upon the object of jealousy. Jealousy has an innate suspicion of others and lack of trust in people and God. Jealousy promotes rivalry as well as a worldly, success-orientation. Jealousy has a skewed view of advantages and disadvantages in life  (Ps. 37 and 73).

Strategies to handle jealousy biblically as we have seen the power of jealousy in the Bible and in Bible verses:

~~Strategy for the Offender

Recognize jealousy as a grievous sin that God hates; confess the sin of jealousy; forsake jealousy; see jealousy as the great evil that it is in its destruction; see your idolatry for the things the other person has or does. Now seek reconciliation with the person(s).

  1. This reconciliation may involve clearing the person’s name in order to make things right.
  2. You must see the power of jealousy in your life and the way it corrupts you and your relationships.
  3. If necessary, read the passages that describe jealousy. Meditate on these words and passages. Let them sink into your heart and soul. Allow God the Spirit to convict and to bring you to confession.
  4. It is good to share this process with others in Christ so that they can pray that the evil one, the destroyer, will not get a foothold in your heart.
  5. Meditate on the goodness of God in the gospel. We deserve nothing but hell. Find great joy and contentment (something that jealousy fights against all day long) in Christ and His gift of life and a relationship with the God of all eternity.

~~Strategy for the Offended in Various Situations

  1. When you experience public, hurtful, humiliating comments or actions, you need to address these in the moment. Allowing the offender to say or to do cruel things without addressing the offense humbly is not a biblical strategy.  Sin must be addressed.  For example, someone humiliated my wife in front of relatives.  I spoke up immediately to tell them that such things are cruel and unnecessary.
  2. When someone is jealous of you, and you have been drawn into their world of competition or comparison, you feel like the jealous whirlwind has trapped you. Maybe it is a competitive co-worker; maybe it is a jealous relative; maybe it is someone who simply chooses to irritate you with jealous actions. You want to escape from the jealousy trap that you never intended to enter.  How? Move on, ignoring the source of jealous competition.  For example, if you have someone competing with you on Facebook, then you may have to block that person. Or if a relative makes it evident that jealousy drives him or her, be kind always, but do not let the jealousy ruin your life or cause you to be upset. You may have to distance yourself.  Remember, the goal is not unity with others; the goal is pleasing God with godliness.
  3. When you have confronted someone about their public humiliation or their jealous competition, yet there is no repentance, what do you do then?  These jealousy situations may happen miles away or next door. They may happen with unbelievers, believers, those inside the church, and those outside the church. These categories define how you move forward. Only those within your body of believers can you particularly pursue in love and discipleship to reconcile to see them change within the local body of Christ.  Apply all of the scriptures regarding discipleship and discipline in the local church.  These truths are the path to reconciliation biblically. Don’t ignore the situation, hoping it will go away.
  4. What about those outside of the local body of Christ, the local church? This is the hardest category to deal with because we want this jealous trap to go away.  We cannot “fix this.” So in wisdom, kindness, and in the mercy that Christ demonstrated, some people may have to be confronted humbly, or some others may have to be ignored.

Finally, remember these truths:

I Corinthians 13:4-7, Jealousy is the antithesis of love and its characteristics. And we are commanded to love God and others.

Remember, “God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in Him”  (John Piper). What a great strategy for fighting off jealousy!   

Think with us: If preachers that were contemporaries of Paul spoke out of rivalry, selfish ambition, seeking to hurt Paul who was in prison, hoping to add affliction to his bonds, then is it any surprise that we, too, will be the victims of jealousy at times? (Philippians 1). Paul’s response is this: he was confident that the Gospel was being advanced and that Christ was proclaimed and therein Paul rejoiced despite the vehement treatment from other “preachers.”  So, you cannot “fix others” in their jealous mess; you can rejoice that Christ is proclaimed, and you can be confident in the power of the Gospel.

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Ps. 23 Who Needs God as a Good Shepherd?

I have recently been looking at Psalm 23. It had been a while since I read and studied through this beautiful poem in its entirety. Unfortunately, this chapter can become and often has become synonymous with a sad event, a death, a loss. And so we tend to revisit Psalm 23 only in those moments. But there is so much more here. In fact, I would suggest that it is in knowing, understanding, and embracing the truth of the early parts of this psalm that we can fully appreciate the middle section on the “valley of the shadow of death.”

Part 1: Calling the LORD my shepherd.

What categories of people need a shepherd God?

#1: Infants. Dependent. Lack knowledge. Lack experience. Unable to help themselves. Children. Need a God who will watch over them. Helpless. No sense of what life is about. Careless and foolish. No sense of danger.

#2: Youth. Investigating. Wandering. Asking. Seeking. Knowing. So much knowledge out there. But can be lead astray. Especially by the false teachers. These teachers are not true shepherds as described in Jn.10. Bring them back (Mt.18:12-14). Not His will that they perish. Commit your youth to the Shepherd’s care. Draw into what is good and lovely, not destructive relationships and friendships.

#3: Couples: Young families. Difficult to care for your kids properly. So much to do with them. So much care. Ask the Good Shepherd’s help. Seek Him. Stay close to the Shepherd. Take your children to God. Pray for them out loud so they know you want God’s help. Pray with them to God. Help them know you depend on God. Cast them on Him. Don’t feel like it all depends on you. Too much care. Show your children the Shepherd. Guide them and lead them to Jesus. Let them know what God is like.

#4: Men & Women: We like to lead. Get things done. We are to reflect the nature of God as Shepherd to our families, friends, and relatives. Especially for those who are married, to our spouses. We want our families to know what God is like as a caring, loving shepherd. Ask for God’s help. The family and friends will learn about God through you, but they need to know that they can additionally learn more from God’s word. Recognize your weaknesses. Seek the Shepherd. If you have children, let them hear about God from you.

#5: Church body: The Shepherd God/Jesus is head of his church and flock. He cares. He loved us and gave his life for the sheep. We need to follow Him. He gives elders and under-shepherds to lead the flock, while following Him (Acts 20:28).  As we all strive to follow Him, we seek His face and leadership in His Spirit in us all. And by His Word, we are united in Him.

#6: Older saints: If you spend much time of your life following the Shepherd/God, you will love Him. You know Him. Rest in him. Trust Him as He has never failed you. Be content in his care in these latter years. Help the younger ones not to be distracted by anything in your latter years. Encourage others by example of following Jesus. He is still the Good Shepherd in your last years.

Think on this: What a fascinating statement: YAHWEH is my shepherd. Contemplate the combination of those names of God (added to what names we have in other the psalms). David is confident that the self-sustaining God who is independent of all things has committed to a shepherding relationship with his people. This is astounding and humbling that he would do so. And the concept communicates to us that the rest of the psalm is dependent on this truth. IN REALITY, the fact that the God who is above all things condescends to us and cares for us must communicate to us with such immense emotion that God involves Himself on our level. He is willing to shepherd. He loves us enough to shepherd us. He knows what it takes to be a shepherd to sheep who need HIM (Isaiah. 57:15)–For thus says the One who is high and lifted up,  who inhabits eternity, whose name is Holy: ‘I dwell in the high and holy place, and also with him who is of a contrite and lowly spirit, to revive the spirit of the lowly, and to revive the heart of the contrite.'”

Closing question: Is the Lord my Shepherd? How would I know? Just because we may have memorized these words does not guarantee the relationship. It is about God’s knowing us as His sheep and our knowing Him internally as our shepherd no matter what. We follow Him (Jn.10:27). Truly being one of the sheep of His pasture, I obey Him and trust Him fully in every circumstance of life. Do you shepherd yourself, or does He shepherd you?

Next, Part 2: The Shepherd Cares for His Sheep. Part 3: The Shepherd Protects His Sheep. Part 4: The Host Provides for His Guests.

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Ps. 23 The Good Shepherd Cares for the Sheep

In Psalm 23, we read that David was confident in God’s care for him. David truly believed that as long as YAHWEH was his Shepherd, he lacked nothing. He was not in want or in need.

Consider some needs the Shepherd cares for:

Need #1: Consider what our greatest need is. It is for our relationship with God, a total confidence in what He is doing. He does us no wrong. His plans for us are always good and bring Him glory. So in Him is our greatest need. In Matthew 5, Jesus teaches us to seek or to pray for our daily bread and not all the riches of the world. The great confidence which believers have in God is the following: “If the Lord is my Shepherd, my feeder, I may conclude I shall not want anything that is really necessary and good for me” Psalm 23.

#2 Need: Consider that David experienced spiritual nourishment. As a shepherd leads sheep to fresh grass for feeding, so the Lord leads His people. One who follows the Lord does not lack any spiritual nourishment. How does YAHWEH care for this arena?

  • Pastor/shepherds (cf. Acts 20:28; 1 Peter 5:2) are expected to feed the flock (John 21:15–17) as well. Food for the soul is the Word of God (Heb. 5:12–14; 1 Peter 2:2).
  • Further, we need to go to God and His Word for our own feeding. Don’t be a follower that has to be spoon-fed everything you get for nourishment. Consider that the Shepherd wants us to be content and to lie down. To rest. To cease our pursuit of other things and to stop. Rest. He knows where the green pastures are and when it is time to stop and to rest in those pastures.

#3 Need: Consider God’s ability to restore our soul. But that restoration will be found after contentment and feeding and rest. The Lord provides forgiveness and peace for those who follow Him.

When his sheep are thirsty and weary, the Shepherd knows it. He has a plan.

Generally, everything we need and we should want is in the Shepherd. Is He enough for us, or do we want something else?

  • In our fatigue, he is our rest.
  • In our busy lives, we need quiet time with Him.
  • In our hurts, He gives healing.
  • In our hunger for something, he will feed our soul.
  • In our emptiness, He will fill our void.
  • He is our greatest need for worship and fulfillment.
  • In our fears, He will protect and control all things.
  • In our anxieties, He will be our peace and safety.

Consider this: We can find repose, rest, refreshment, and renewal (physical and spiritual go together) in the Shepherd of our souls. All we need will be supplied by the Shepherd when we follow Him. It would seem difficult in the day in which we live to find repose, rest, refreshment, and renewal. If we are struggling without rest, then we are not following the Savior/Shepherd. He always makes room for and time for repose, rest, refreshment, and renewal.

So then, when we must face the “valley of the shadow of death,” we are not overwhelmed. We fear no evil because we are ready and renewed.  Notice also that the paths of righteousness are more readily attained AFTER we have been renewed and refreshed. Nourished. Fed. Watered. Rested. Now walk confidently.

#4 Need: He will lead us in right paths.

  • The leading of the Shepherd is on right paths. Or literally, paths characterized by righteousness. This is God’s purpose and plan. We would not necessarily choose this path. But it is the path on which our soul experiences the likeness and image of God. We are changed into more and more of His likeness.
  • The Lord’s leading guides us in the right way (paths of righteousness). A good shepherd knows the right paths on which to bring the sheep home safely. So too the Lord loses none of His sheep but guides them in the right way. He does so because of His reputation (for His name’s sake) first and foremost. In other words, He makes good on His own promises, His own character of holiness and righteousness. He has promised to make us more like Him. He will take us on this path.
  • As a sheep, I must trust the Good Shepherd. These are the paths in which all the saints should desire to be led and to be kept, and never to turn aside out of these paths. Can we accept this truth? It is “For his Name’s sake.” To magnify his Name as a gracious and merciful God and Shepherd. Is that good for us? If we believe he is to be magnified in us as simple sheep, then we can accept the path of righteousness. Think of Pilgrim’s Progress.

So what can we conclude? He is our Good Shepherd. He wants us to rest. Renew. Refresh. Do we? Do we take time in Him and with Him? Can we disconnect from the world and our lives long enough for what the Shepherd would do for us?

Next, in part 3, we will see what God as our Shepherd does to protect His sheep.

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Be the Church OR Go to Church?

I have been having an ongoing discussion with some folks about a topic that is rather critical to the mission of the church. The followers of Jesus Christ are called to go and to make disciples. That is the mission. And I think the disciples of the early church had a good understanding of what that meant. But somewhere along the line, the concept of going into the world, connecting with the world, and living alongside people in the world in order to draw them to Jesus as disciples, drastically changed.

What changed? The mission became more about what took place at a certain address and the activities and programs offered at that address and in that building within those four walls. Unfortunately, the churches characterized by a faulty mission have exported this concept around the world. Our form of missions or simply the accomplishing of  Matthew 28:18-20–discipling the nations–has changed. Well, yes, we still believe we should take the gospel to the world, but as soon as possible we must have an address, a building, and a program that will draw people to us. That sentence represents the philosophical drive that moves many churches. “WE HAVE WHAT THEY NEED. SO WE NEED TO GET THEM TO THIS FACILITY, THIS BUILDING. Then they can be disciples.” This philosophy has done immeasurable damage.

I am sure that it was not intended to be this way at the point when the early church went from being chased into the catacombs to being a mainstream idea around the time of Constantine. When the Christians came out of the catacombs and into the society around them, they still had to interact with the people and to disciple those people that were around them. And I have no idea at what period of time the idea of discipleship became unfortunately linked to a program that had to take place at the address of the “church.” But that link was a distinct change. And that philosophy of edifice equals church equals program equals “God is pleased that we are accomplishing his mission because of what we do at our building” has handicapped our impact on our culture and our world.

Another part of the historical picture is the movement of separation from the world (including its educational system) that pulled us even deeper into our fortress and behind our four walls. I grew up in that system and believed that we could give unbelievers the gospel in some form; but that they really had to get to our building and involved in our program in order for them to be truly God’s separate people. And except for our brief forays into the malls and nursing homes and other places where we could present godly, holy music and concerts (along with, of course, passing out tons of tracts), we expected that we would invite them to our building and to our address; then there at our holy and special place where God meets with us, they would attend and become a disciple of Jesus.

What this system of “discipling” produced was mostly a revolving door of religious people moving from one city to the next city and from one church address to the next church address. Greatly diminished was the fact that we actually lived and impacted and sought to disciple those around us in the community who had never known God or had never had an interest in religious stuff. They were the monsters to avoid. In fact, as I have talked with people that grew up in these kinds of church systems and philosophies (as described above) between the 1960s to 2000 (even up to 2010), I began to realize that they had no idea how to interact with a totally irreligious person. And they admit this fact. The church lost something between A.D. 400 and A.D. 2000. Where was the salt and light?

Interestingly enough, another phenomenon is taking place. We expect kids to grow up hearing the teaching and automatically get what they have heard because they were “there” at the right address and building for all of those years. We cannot understand how they did not become a disciple of Jesus. One mother, upon a Christian school closing, came to us and said, “How will my children hear about God now?” If we as Christians are not discipling our own children and teens, we are far from reaching out to the community at large.

Everything we have discussed is a “go to church” mentality and philosophy that mirrors mainline denominations. What happened to “we are the church”?

What does it look like to “go to church” as opposed to “be the church”? What is the difference between these two opposing philosophies of life and discipleship in Christianity?

Go to church (General Characteristics)

  • Activities must take place at this address where we meet. In fact, we shut down any idea of ministry or discipleship that is not in this building. After all, anything offsite from our church building is probably something weird or cultish.
  • People need to hear the gospel here at our church building so that they will be saved. This is the “special place” of God.
  • Our programs that are developed to disciple people take place on certain nights and with the right materials that help people become apart of what is going on at this address.
  • Come up with new and fresh ideas to get people to this building to meet Jesus.
  • If you do not attend here at our church building, then I’m not sure about you. You probably are not a Christian.
  • Focus on people in programs and on the membership rolls. As long as you have been through our membership class and you attend our scheduled services, you are a good disciple of Jesus.
  • If you are faithful to all of the weekly scheduled meetings, you are at the top of the leadership and preferred member chart, a dangerous practice of performance orientation. This practice tends to hide the sin in our lives and to cover as much as possible in order to maintain some good standing in the eyes of others. Hiding sin is easy to do for 45-90 minutes on Sunday morning.
  • We tend to endeavor to get totally unsaved folks to the church building first, where they will be extremely uncomfortable.
  • Therefore, we host special events so that folks can get to that building. But then we have no further contact with them beyond those events, unless they come back to that building for further events.
  • The church comes alive at 9:45 on Sunday morning and dies at noon.  Then it regenerates for a brief time on Wednesdays, perhaps.  This is “going to church,” and not “being the church” because many folks fall through the cracks and interact with no one or may be discipled by no one. They manage their own spiritual lives throughout the week.

Be the church (The Goal)

  • Activities take place wherever the disciplers live and gather–having neighbors into our homes, helping co-workers, loving on needy people.
  • People share their lives and beliefs wherever they connect with others. They do not have to wait to come to “the church building.”
  • Programs are limited to specific goals of drawing people in through the layers of unbelief and their comfort apart from God towards discussion of God and life and the story of the gospel. In fact, the program is life, and the goal is discipleship.
  • Discipleship is a lifestyle of building relationships, connecting with people, and speaking truth. We grow these relationships towards Christ. As people begin to see we care about them and they begin to desire truth, they press in towards hearing more about God and seeing how we live.
  • The church gathers weekly in places sufficiently able to handle its meeting, to build its theology, and to gain continuity of growth.
  • We celebrate all those who are a part of the greater, true body of Christ and who are discipling the world around them and bringing them to Christ.
  • We are serious about discipling while opening our hearts and lives to people. We are honest and open with one another as we meet at a restaurant, a home, or a coffee house.
  • Leaders are developed as they become committed to the mission and the story of God as it is lived out together throughout the week wherever they are. They live and disciple alongside someone else who is already in leadership in order to see how they function.
  • We shape our lives and schedule around the mission first and then around the ways and means to accomplish that mission rather than building our lives around a building and a place and its programs.
  • We look forward to sharing what God is doing in the main gathering of the church weekly where we are teaching solid truth directly from Scriptures that will help us to live daily as disciples.
  • We are a family carrying out the “one-anothering” of the New Testament.  We live and breathe together throughout the week serving our community and loving on community members in need.
  • We should readily admit that we are all broken sinners in a broken world who are becoming more like Christ through the Gospel.

LIVING THE MISSION: Briefly, we saw a body of believers that drew in a blind woman through their missional living.  Their first question to her was not “Can you come to church with me on Sunday morning?”  Their first question to her was “How can we help you?” After they poured their lives into hers with genuine love, she saw a difference in them.  She desired to know more.  The local body of believers went to her where she was.  After two years of living out the Gospel with her, she came to personal faith in Christ; she was baptized recently.

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Perseverance from the Life of Job

A study on perseverance by Dr. Judith R. Coats

Two themes become evident as we study the book of Job with the topic of perseverance in mind: (1) God is the main character, and He is asking Job, “Am I enough?” (2) We should be very cautious in our judgment of others; we do not know all of God’s purposes in others’ lives.

Let’s take a bird’s eye look at the book of Job before we launch into the study. What is a narrative? A story. The story of Job provides probably the best example for a study on perseverance. What does the word perseverance mean? “Steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose . . . especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement” (dictionary.com).

“The book of Job is Narrative History. Its author is unknown yet it is possible that Job himself wrote it. It is possible that Job is the oldest of any book of the Bible, written approximately 2100-1800 B.C. Key personalities of this book include God, Job, Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite, Zophar the Naamathite, and Elihu the Buzite. In Job, we see a man whom God allows to be directly attacked by Satan. He is an example of faithfulness as he loses everything important to him yet remains faithful to God. Its purpose is to illustrate God’s sovereignty and faithfulness during a time of great suffering [emphasis mine].

  •    In chapters 1-3, God tests Job’s faithfulness through allowing Satan to attack him. God told Satan, “Behold, all that he has is in your power, only do not put forth your hand on him” (1:12). Through Job’s trials, all is lost including his health, his wife even tells him to curse God and commit suicide, but he remains strong and faithful, “Through all this Job did not sin nor did he blame God.” (1:22).
  •    From chapters 4-37, Job’s friends give him plenty of bad advice, in rounds of discussion. They mistakenly blame his sufferings on his personal sins rather than God testing and growing Job. One of them was half-correct in that God wanted to humble him, but this was only a part of God’s test. [Basically, his friends push the false narrative that God blesses us when we are sinless and punishes us when we are sinful.  This is the earliest example of a kind of “prosperity gospel.”]
  •    In chapters 38-42, God speaks to Job and restores him. God knows that Job has received incorrect guidance from his friends, “Who is this that darkens counsel by words without knowledge?” God fittingly declares that humans do not know everything. Then He humbles Job by asking a series of questions that could never be answered by anyone other than Almighty God; for example, “Have you understood the expanse of the earth? Tell Me, if you know all this.” God then brings him to an understanding that believers don’t always know what God is doing in their lives.

In the end, Job answers God by saying, ‘I have declared that which I did not understand.’ God then blessed Job with twice as much as he had before his trials began.”  The previous summary is by Jay Smith of http://biblehub.com/summary/job/1.htm

Interesting fact to keep in mind.  Job was probably one of the 10 richest men in the Bible.  His net worth in the beginning of the book was approximately twenty million, eight hundred thousand dollars.  His net worth at the end of the book was forty-one million, six hundred thousand.  http://loverealm.org/top-10-richest-biblical-figures-part-1/

Let’s remember that Job had no Bible, no local church, no fellow elders or pastor—simply faith in his God whom Job knew. The story takes place just after the flood.

SO HOW DOES JOB DEMONSTRATE PERSEVERANCE THROUGHOUT THE STORY?

First thought: Job persevered in his relationship with God.

(1.) We learn that Job had a consistent walk with God while everything in his life was normal and enjoyable: 1:1 “There once was a man named Job who lived in the land of Uz. He was blameless—a man of complete integrity. He feared God and stayed away from evil.” Job 1:8; Job 42:10-17 (God restored the fortunes of Job as he is humbled through his experience.)

(2.) We learn that Job had a consistent walk with God when EVERYTHING fell apart. In my relationship with God, I must remember that He is sovereign—He sees the beginning and the end; I must respond to His sovereignty with worship of Him instead of doubt, bitterness, or anger: (Job 1:20-22)  20 Job stood up and tore his robe in grief. Then he shaved his head and fell to the ground to worship. 21 He said, “I came naked from my mother’s womb, and I will be naked when I leave. The Lord gave me what I had, and the Lord has taken it away. Praise the name of the Lord!” 22 In all of this, Job did not sin by blaming God. Job 2:10; 23:10; 31:28-40 (Job’s final appeal).

(3.) We learn that Job had a knowledge of God when he was bombarded with accusations, lousy counsel, and jealousy from “friends.” Job 4-37; 9:4; 13:18; 19:25-27; 23:13; 26:8-14; 42:7-9 (God rebukes Job’s “friends” and accepts Job’s prayer of contrition over his pride. God calls the counsel of his friends foolishness.)

(4.) We learn that Job had moments of doubting God in the midst of the loss of everything and during a time when his body was devastated by boils.  Job 3 (lamenting); 6:4; 7:20, 21; 10:1-3; 10:9; 23:1-7; 23:8-10; 23:15-17; Chapter 29; 30:19-23

(5.) We learn that the book of Job is not about Job.  It is about God.  God is asking Job the question and all of us the question: “Am I enough?” Job 2:3; 12:9, 10; 28:18-20, 24, 25; 30:10-11; 38:1-40:1 (God reminds Job of truth in some amazing poetry.)

(6.) We also learn that Job is humbled by God, and he then takes another spiritual step. Job 40:4, 5; How could Job have questioned God? Chapters 40 and 41. Job 42: 1-6 “Then Job answered the LORD and said: “I know that you can do all things, and that no purpose of yours can be thwarted. ‘Who is this that hides counsel without knowledge?’ Therefore I have uttered what I did not understand, things too wonderful for me, which I did not know. ‘Hear, and I will speak; I will question you, and you make it known to me.’ I had hear of you by the hearing of the ear, but now my eye sees you; therefore I despise myself, and repent in dust and ashes.”

(7.) As I persevere, like Job, in my relationship with God, I must not stray from the heart of the Gospel: We deserve Hell every day, but God in His grace took our sin to give us His righteousness by no merit of our own: II Corinthians 5:21; Job 13:15. This is the Great Exchange.

 Second Thought: Job persevered in his relationship with Family

(1.) We learn, ironically, that Job offered sacrifices for his family faithfully—for all of them.  Job was not only concerned for his spiritual walk, but he also had great concern for the spiritual lives of his family.  Job 1:5

(2.) We learn of the steadfast perseverance of Job despite the loss of all of his children in one day. Job 1:20 “Then Job arose and tore his robe and shaved his head and fell on the ground and worshiped. And he said, ‘Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed by the name of the Lord.’”

(3.) We learn that he had the strength to rebuke his wife when she wanted him to give up on God and kill himself: “Then his wife said to him, ‘Do you still hold fast your integrity? Curse God and die.’ But he said to her, ‘You speak as one of the foolish women would speak. Shall we receive good from God, and shall we not receive evil?’ In all this Job did not sin with his lips.” Job 2:9

(4.) We learn in Job’s perseverance that he was abandoned by all of his family.  We do not know where his wife went, but she is absent as well.  We learn that he was utterly alone in his trial.  Job 19:13-19 “He has put my brothers far from me, and those who knew me are wholly estranged from me. My relatives have failed me. . . . My breath is strange to my wife, and I am a stench to the children of my own mother. . . .and those whom I loved have turned against me.”

(5.) We learn that Job was gracious at the end of the story when he became a millionaire once again, and all of the family came back around.  Job 42:11 “Then came to him all of his brothers and sisters and all who had known him before, and ate bread with him in his house. And they showed him sympathy and comforted him for all the evil that the Lord had brought upon him. And each of them gave him a piece of money and a ring of gold.”

Third Thought: Job persevered in his relationship with Friends

 (1.) We learn that perseverance becomes difficult when foolish friends wear us down. Job 2:13 (The friends did their best work when they said nothing because they saw that his suffering was great.); 5:7 (Not encouraging—man is born to trouble); 6:24, 25 (Job cries out their words may sound upright, but their reproof is ill-founded.); 11:20 (Zophar basically calls Job wicked.); 19:2 (Job was worn down and broken in pieces from their words.)

(2.) We learn that Job persevered in his knowledge of God despite being bombarded with false biblical counsel that was cloaked in pride and superiority. Job 5:27 (Eliphaz basically admonishes Job to get right with God—“Hear, and know it for your good.”); 8:4, 5 (Bildad says that Job should plead for mercy for the transgressions of his family.); 11:1-6 (Zophar basically mocks Job saying that Job is probably receiving less than his guilt deserves.); 13:12 (Job describes the friends’ counsel as “maxims . . . of ashes; your defenses are defenses of clay.”); 15:1-6 (Eliphaz accuses Job severely—“Your own mouth condemns you, and not I.); Elihu is probably the worst example in 36:2 “Bear with me a little, and I will show you, for I have yet something to say on God’s behalf.”

(3.) We learn for today that FB chatter and banter is probably the worst way to discuss truth. Job 12:2 (Job is beginning to be sarcastic here because he realizes that his friends are spewing foolishness.  Job says, “Wisdom will die with you.”); 15:9 (Eliphaz boasts, “What do you know that we do not know? What do you understand that is not clear to us?  FB chatter is mostly a spewing of opinions.); 21: 27 (Job reasons with his friends that even the wicked prosper, thus trying to blow apart their argument.); Elihu in his youthful indiscretion blurts out anger, Job 32 (What is interesting is that Elihu keeps referring to expressing his opinion—big mistake.) In Elihu’s youthful babbling, he mocks Job in 34:7-9.

(4.) We learn from Job’s persevering in conversation with “friends” that some people claim to know God but completely miss the mark. Job 2:11 (Wanted to show him sympathy and comfort but they showed neither); 5:8, 9 (Instructing Job that he should have sought God); 17:4 (Job pleads for friends who have closed their hearts to knowledge.); 20:29 (Zophar tells Job that because he is wicked, this tragedy is his portion from God.); 21:34 (Job informs the friends that they comfort him with empty nothings and falsehood.); Elihu completely misjudged Job in chapters 32-37.  He is young, but he certainly did not use discretion in his speech.  He was very wrong regarding Job.

(5.) We learn from God in Job’s persevering with his friends that this was God’s plan to begin with. Job 4:6 (Questioning Job’s fear of God); 4:17 (The irony here is that Job WAS right with God); 8:20 (Bildad judges that God will not “reject” a blameless man, but what he does not realize is that God was proving a blameless man.);  15:20 (Eliphaz assumes that only the wicked suffer.); 19:5,6 (Job admits that God has put him in the wrong and closed his net around him.); 20:23 (Zophar concludes that this is God’s burning anger.)

(6.) We learn that Job’s willingness to go back and forth with his friends contributed to his doubts and pride. Job 12:4 (He realizes that he is a laughingstock to his friends—why do people seem to enjoy it when others suffer?); 13:2 (Job expresses “I am not inferior to you.”); 13:3 (Job desires an audience with God to argue his case.) 30:10, 11 (God has humbled Job); 31:34 (Job admits that he had some fear of man.)

(7.) We learn from Job’s perseverance with his “friends” that if people judge us so quickly after knowing us so well that they were not friends to begin with, or they were not I Corinthians 13 kind of friends. Job 4:5; Job 4:8 (Suggesting Job had secret sin); 8:6 (Bildad suggests that if Job were pure and upright, all would be well.); 18:21 (Bildad went so far as to imply Job did not know God.); 20:5 (Zophar goes so far as to call Job wicked and godless.); 22:5 (Eliphaz blurts out, “Is not your evil abundant? There is no end to your iniquities.”) Elihu ends up saying, “Job speaks without knowledge; his words are without insight” Job 34:35.

(8.) In the end, God asks Job to sacrifice for his friends.  Job obeys despite having been judged so harshly and so falsely. Job 19:14 (Despite the fact that “my close friends have forgotten me.”); 19:19 (“All my intimate friends abhor me, and those whom I loved have turned against me.)

(9.) We learn from Job’s perseverance that his knowledge of God sustained him throughout the discourse. Job 26 (Job defends God with his knowledge of God.)

(10.) We also learn that persevering with godly friends means that we probably should listen more than we speak unless we really do offer comfort, compassion, and sympathy—but still share truth.

(11.) In the end, God expresses his anger toward Job’s “friends.”  They totally blew it.  He asked Job to sacrifice for them lest God’s wrath fall on them for their folly.   Job prayed for his friends, displaying once again his perseverance in love and humility and graciousness.  They most likely did not have a walk with God, but they simply spewed their foolishness to use Job as a whipping post.

Fourth Thought: Job persevered in his relationship with God while experiencing great trials.

(1.) We learn that the very first thing Job did when tragedy beyond comprehension struck his life was to worship God. Satan said to God, “But stretch out your hand and touch all that he has, and he will curse you to your face.” Job 1:11.  How did Job respond? “Then Job arose and tore his robe and shaved his head and fell on the ground and worshiped. And he said, ‘Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.’ In all of this Job did not sin or charge God with wrong.” Job 1:20-22

(2). We learn that Job even persevered when God gave Satan permission to take away Job’s health.  Job 2:4-6 “Then Satan answered the LORD and said, ‘Skin for skin! All that a man has he will give for his life. But stretch out your hand and touch his bone and his flesh, and he will curse you to your face.’ And the LORD said to Satan, ‘Behold, he is in your hand; only spare his life’” Job 2:4-6. The Bible says, “In all of this Job did not sin with his lips” Job 2:10.

(3.) We learn that Job was able to verbalize during his perseverance what he was thinking. He was fearful at times and admits it.  He also mourns the day of his birth.  He does not blame God, and the Bible tells us that he did not sin with his lips.  But he was able to verbalize his grief without sinning.  Job chapter 3; 7:3-6, 16

(4.)  We learn that Job reminds us in his perseverance that “man is born to trouble as the sparks fly upward” (Job 5:7). We cannot believe that we will be absent from tribulation because Jesus reminds us of this truth as well.  But Jesus has overcome the world. Job 14:1,2

(5.) We learn that Job acknowledges that God is at work in his life. Job 6:4, 8, 9; 12:9; 13:15; 19:6

(6.) At some point, Job does, in his pride, begin to question God.  He is human. Job 9:17, 18, 27, 28; chapter 10

(7.) We learn that Job acknowledged that he was as ease in life.  Perhaps he is realizing that he took God for granted. Job 16:7-17. Verse 12 says that Job was at ease when God broke him apart.

(8.) We learn that Job fights through a broken spirit. Job 17:1,2; 19:20; 30: 26-31

(9.) Amidst the trial, Job perseveres in his knowledge of God. Job 26

(10.) We learn that Job expresses the fact that the righteous and the evil suffer.  The purposes of God are not always clear to us. Job 31:1-8

(11.) I think the greatest lesson we learn is that Job sums up the experience when he says, “I had heard of you by the hearing of the ear, but now my eye sees you; therefore I despise myself, and repent in dust and ashes” Job 42:5, 6. We learn through trials.  We should be counting them, in light of God’s purposes, all joy.  “I see you; You are enough.”

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What Happened to Christian Virtues?

Integrity and honesty seem to have fallen on hard times in the Christian realm. So have kindness and thoughtfulness. I wonder if Christian people even recognize that they have immunized themselves from the realities of their sin? We talk about worldliness, and our discussion seems to migrate towards certain visible lifestyles or clothing choices or distasteful places we visit. But should it not be more of a concern that Christians can be just as dishonest, just as unkind, and just as mean as some unbelievers around them?  In the following paragraphs, let me give you some examples of the kinds of things I know go on or I have witnessed going on or I have known to have gone on. I have experienced directly or in counseling other believers who have shared with my wife and me the way Christian people acted toward them. And I realize that some of the “Christians” out there really are not followers of Christ at all. We address this issue of “nasty” Christians in another article here; they are masquerading as believers but have no real relationship with God. These negative situations I understand. But this fact does not explain all the lack of Christian virtues that actual believers display at times. Unfortunately, I believe, many Christians have become accustomed to living a certain way. And also, unfortunately, no one it seems has pointed out the lack of the fruit of the Spirit of God in their lives or the lack of evidence of His presence when they encounter negative life situations. Oh, and one more thought. It would be more evident that they recognize their lack of godliness if they came back later and admitted their fault, confessed it, and asked forgiveness. But they do not. Let’s move on to some concrete examples.

Example: We lived near a local venue that hosted an annual conference for pastors and Christian workers. At this conference, the hosts and conference workers dealt with the pastors and laypersons that attended. What have these pastors been known to do? Complain. Treat the workers with disrespect. Expect service 24/7 regardless of what else was going on at the moment or what time of night it was. The venue nurse shared with us that one man called her at 11 pm at her home to demand cough syrup for a roommate that was snoring.  When she arrived at his room with the cough syrup, he did not express thanks but said, “Oh, I guess I don’t need that.”  He did not apologize for taking her out of her home and out into the cold, winter night only to arrive back at her home past midnight.

Example: A couple of friends of ours have been involved in or are involved in finances in Christian institutions of higher learning. They have to follow up on those folks who have not paid their bills, or they advise families on financing their children’s college education. Now I am not exaggerating when I state that a fairly high percentage of Christians that owe debt to colleges don’t expect to pay these bills. They avoid responding to the calls. They say that they cannot pay the bill. They literally have been known to swear at the one calling them to collect money on their bill. I understand that people may fall on hard times and ask for an extension on a bill. That response is not even in the picture here. Those lacking virtue simply don’t intend to pay. They say that they have no intention. “You are a big college (university), and you can afford to let this go.” And another friend explained that when she called “Christian” parents about financing through grants or loans, she cannot tell us the number of times that she has been sworn at by pastors, yelled at, called names, spoken to rudely, or hung up on.

Example: I worked in a Christian camp for two decades. One trend we noticed in the last 6-8 years was that we would get a college student signed up to work for camp, including signing a contract that they agreed to. This meant that the camp leadership would see that position and responsibility for the summer had been filled. Then, sometime in the late spring, sometimes 3-4 weeks before camp training began, the camp would get a call or email letting them know the college student was not coming–backing out of a signed contract. Imagine what this action does to the camp staff situation. Again, I understand if an emergency comes up that prevents them from coming to serve. But I am not speaking of that kind of situation. Usually the camp was informed that the student had an opportunity to make better money and would not be able to work camp. Think about it. They knew the state of their finances already when they signed the contract. They should never have signed and promised to serve if they were going to potentially back out.

Example: In dealing with certain Christians from the south, we have been told that an ethic of “southern gentility” is the ruling moral code. In other words, they excuse dishonesty to your face by considering that it is better to give you a nice feeling by being kind to your face, while really not telling you the whole story or the exact situation. They don’t consider it lying or false conception-giving. They are just too kind to tell you all the facts. Well, what an amazing way to lie!

Example: One faithful worker in a Christian institution was told that everyone received approximately the same salary.  When he inquired as to his woefully low income for the hours that he put in, the response from the administration was always the same: everyone is on a horizontal flow chart here.  Everyone gets paid the same salary approximately.  Years passed, and he found out via a local town resident the amount that one of the other employees was paid at that Christian institution.  He was shocked that he had been being paid about 1/3 of what someone else made who did not put in the same workload.  How can administrations live with themselves consistently lying to employees like that?  God knows, and He is sovereign over these injustices, but the realities are shocking to say the least.

In conclusion, let’s answer our question: What happened to Christian virtues? The answer is that those virtues still exist in those who are committed to biblical ethics and Christ-like living.  The question becomes the following: will we fit into the unethical mode of treating other folks, or will we purpose in our hearts to please God regardless of what the norm tends to excuse?

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Worshipping and Reading Scripture, but Unsaved

Acts 8 has an interesting narrative embedded in the chapter: 26 As for Philip, an angel of the Lord said to him, “Go south down the desert road that runs from Jerusalem to Gaza.” 27 So he started out, and he met the treasurer of Ethiopia, a eunuch of great authority under the Kandake, the queen of Ethiopia. The eunuch had gone to Jerusalem to worship, [emphasis mine] 28 and he was now returning. Seated in his carriage, he was reading aloud from the book of the prophet Isaiah [reading Scripture].

29 The Holy Spirit said to Philip, “Go over and walk along beside the carriage.”

30 Philip ran over and heard the man reading from the prophet Isaiah. Philip asked, “Do you understand what you are reading?”

31 The man replied, “How can I, unless someone instructs me?” And he urged Philip to come up into the carriage and sit with him.

32 The passage of Scripture he had been reading was this:

“He was led like a sheep to the slaughter.  And as a lamb is silent before the shearers, he did not open his mouth. 33 He was humiliated and received no justice.  Who can speak of his descendants? For his life was taken from the earth.”

34 The eunuch asked Philip, “Tell me, was the prophet talking about himself or someone else?” 35 So beginning with this same Scripture, Philip told him the Good News about Jesus (NLT).

Amazingly, the Ethiopian had spent his time worshiping AND reading scripture, but he had no relationship whatsoever with Jesus. How many times have we heard people say something like the following: “Oh, I know Jesus; I go to church. “He is definitely saved; he prayed a prayer as a boy.” “She has known God all of her life.” “They worship at the church in town.”

How many people in our churches “worship” with no knowledge whatsoever of the personal relationship that is found in Christ alone.  Salvation is not a well-crafted, man-dependent prayer.  Salvation is the entering in by faith into a relationship with Christ and a commitment to live a life for Him out of a heart of gratitude.  That relationship may begin with a prayer of contrition, or it may begin when a soul has come to the end of himself/herself and cries out inaudibly for Christ to take over.  Salvation is not something “we do.”  Salvation is something that Christ does on our behalf.  We simply acknowledge His work on the cross as our substitute, acknowledge our sinful state in which we are totally incapable of saving ourselves, and yield our lives to His control in full faith.

What is the point of this article?  (1) We definitely need to engage people in our church bodies in conversations regarding their salvation.  We need to ask them specific questions like Philip asked the Ethopian Eunuch.  “Do you understand the Gospel?” (2) The Word is clear that we will know believers by the fruit in their lives (Matthew 7:20). When people are evidencing no fruit of the Spirit in their lives, we must pose the question: Where is true repentance and faith in their lives? And (3) we must recognize these steps as biblical discipleship and not “judgment” on someone.  Because we love people, we want to hear their stories of genuine, relationship with God.

When someone cannot explain specific and personal relationship with Christ and responds only with generalities like “I go to church” or “I have always known God” or “I prayed a prayer as a child,” we had better probe a bit deeper as Philip did to be able to explain to them the Good News of Jesus and the richness of a walk with Him.

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Why aren’t more women theologically-driven?

By Dr. Judith R. Coats

To begin, I reflect on an insightful moment that caused me much dismay and spawned questions as to the mystery regarding several generations of women who have been somehow convinced that theological studies were for men alone. A seminary president stood by his display at a college.  I walked up to the table with a female student who was interested in theology and who desired to get an MDiv (Masters of Divinity, a 96-hour degree in systematic theology).  I was simply accompanying her as her friend as she prepared for and prayed about her future.  She was interested in the study of theology solely to live her life for God. When she inquired as to enrolling at this particular seminary, the president rolled his eyes and said the following: “Planning to be a pastor, eh?”  After which he threw his head back in mocking laughter.  Both of us, however, stood stone-faced and appalled at his condescension. Needless to say, that seminary was off her list immediately. How did we get to this point in the 21st century?

What is the biblical basis for theologically-driven women?

·         We are all, as male and female believers, disciples of Christ, and we are called to speak truth into each other’s lives in the ministry of one-anothering and community and body life. We cannot or should not refer everyone to “the pastor” or “the head elder.” Biblical counseling should not be left to the male leadership in the church body.

·         The Bible is not gender-specific regarding studying the Word of God. Below are a few examples of the over 75 verses encouraging us to study God’s Word:

1.      II Timothy 3:16, 17 (that the believer may be equipped)

2.      Psalm 119:11 (that the believer may not sin)

3.      Hebrews 4:12 (it is powerful to help us change)

4.      II Peter 3:15 (that the believer may make a defense of his/her faith)

5.      Romans 12:2 (that the believer may know the will of God)

6.      Hebrews 4:12 (that God my discern the heart of the believer)

7.      Proverbs 1:1-22 (that the believer may find the knowledge of God)

8.      Psalm 1:2 (that the believer may delight in the Word)

·         We are all, male and female, to put on the armor of Ephesians 6 as we wrestle against principalities and powers.  Why leave one gender open to defenselessness?

·         We are all, male and female, called to guide our own families in wisdom and in spiritual truth. Recall Timothy. Two of the greatest influences in his life were his mother and his grandmother (II Timothy 1:5).

·         We as the women are admonished to teach the younger women by word and by example in our church bodies (Titus 2:4).  If we go through life “weakly” equipped in the Word, we are not fulfilling our purpose as we grow in Christ and live out our spiritual lives in community.

·         We need the knowledge of the Scriptures to face the trials and temptations of life armed with truth and strength and full faith. Because more women are not theologically grounded, they may tend to suffer through extremely difficult circumstances without strong anchors of truth to call to mind for stability.  For example, a woman who has a stillborn child or goes through the failure of a marriage or the rebellion of a son or daughter must have solid theology to guide her through deep waters.  Otherwise, she may flounder endlessly in an emotional abyss.

What has kept women from understanding and from studying theology? 

(1) Well, I believe that several generations of church leaders have relegated the study of the Bible to the men.  That study has been taught as the “man’s role.”  If women looked at that as submission to male leadership, then they were sold a bill of goods something like, “Stay weak in the Word, and ride out the storms of life without a rudder.”  (2) I also believe that perhaps the overall oppression of women in some Christian circles (underpaid, overworked, unappreciated, guilt-ridden into service, and any other number of sad scenarios) has plagued many churches and institutions especially in some fundamental churches that I have been a part of in my past; so women have seen their role as being ignorant theologically, doing exactly what they are told to do under the guise of “be a servant.” (3) Since women have been deterred by whatever means to leave the theological studies to men, they have many times fed on books with little to no theological meat.  Some well-intentioned authors share their personal experience without backing up their claims with strong theology.  (4) And most sad to me is that men especially reject good theological material if the author is a woman.  It seems that they will not read articles (like this one) and books unless the author is a well-known male. 

Let me interject here that you may be thinking that I believe that women should be pastors.  I do not.  I do believe that they should and must take on leadership roles and administrative roles within the body.  However, there are four words in the NT for me that draw the line at their being the head preaching elder.  I must acknowledge those four words.  For me, they indicate that women can use their gifts in many ways in the body except for the head preaching elder.  Those four words in the list of qualifications for the elder are the following: “Husband of one wife.”  That phrase cannot be rejected today as a cultural faux pas to mean something that it does not presently.  That specific qualification is very clear in my opinion.  Other than that, women may and should serve the body per their spiritual gifts.

Here is my proposal: 

Women, let’s turn the tide of the generations past to pursue a radical commitment to the study of theology.  Our churches, families, friends, neighbors, and communities will be changed as we embody truth and as we speak the truth found in the theology of the Word of God. Go for it! Podcasts, resources online (ccel.org), Bible studies, historical theology online for free, and websites that list hundreds of materials ready to download and to read are a great place to begin or to continue the study of theology if you are already on that terrific journey. And by all means, do this study of theology in community so that your studies and conclusions can be grounded in the church.

 

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Personality and Bible Theology

When you think of Peter in the Bible, how would you describe his personality? How about Paul? What kind of person was King Saul (the guy who hid back in the baggage when they were looking for him among the crowd: I Samuel 10)? If you met Gideon, how would you describe him as well (the guy who was hiding while working on the crops and said he was lowest “on the totem pole” in his father’s house: Judges 6)? Does what the Bible says about these people portray a certain personality in your mind? As we ponder these questions, consider, however, some biblical thoughts that I hope will help us to think well in this area of personality traits and personality types.

First: Think about the original creation with me from Genesis 1-2.   How did God create us? Man was made in the image of God. Image means likeness. By the truth of creation in His image, we understand that humans are different from all other creatures. They were created with certain distinct qualities. These qualities make them a person, like God, as opposed to a creature like your dog or cat.

·    Men and women have intellect: the ability to reason. They can arrive at conclusions and solve certain problems. By analysis and reason, they can figure things out.

·    Men and women have a moral sense of right and wrong. Animals do not. Animals act out of God’s inner instinct as He created them.  Humans are able to discern the difference between right and wrong, good and evil.

·    Men and women have purpose and will: created to live and to work and to serve God in His kingdom. Animals respond out of obedience to the Creator. They do not choose to obey or disobey God.

·    Men and women were made to worship the Creator. This union is a joyful relationship. Knowing God. We were made to love Him. Although animals respond to God as Creator, they do so out of innate creative obedience. Men and women choose to worship God. 

·    Men and women were made as social beings like God (God is his own “small group.” He enjoys being one or united.  The Father and the Son and the Spirit are all joined in person, purpose, and priority. God is not a loner as a leader in the universe.) Community. Family. We enjoy that sense of being a part of a group. God made us this way.

Second: What happened to the creation at the fall? All of these areas of likeness to God were affected by sin and its decay. Sin is a negative and destructive force that leads to death, including its effect on the physical body. Our person, each one of us, has been affected and changed from God’s original creative purpose.

Examples:

·        Intellect: Men and women became the center of their own thinking. They blame others. They view other people as a problem. They think they can do better for themselves than that what God can do for them. They, at times, can think very irrational thoughts and very foolish ideas.

·        Moral: Men and women tend to rationalize and to relativize behavior based on a “gray” scale of right/wrong which is driven by what is best for themselves rather than what God desires. Conscience is skewed and can be adjusted by self-standards. 

·        Purpose: Men and women live for self and/or what they feel is best. What they desire is what they believe they need and therefore must have. They willfully choose and desire things that God says are not to be desired. Sin. Originally, Adam and Eve were wise in their choices.  Then, humans became fools who chose foolishly to do their own will.

·        Worship: Men and women worship self rather than the creator (Rom. 1). The things that they covet, these become their gods that they believe will bring them comfort and joy and pleasure rather than God. What sadness that people turned from loving and serving the highest being in the universe to worship anything that they see or know besides the true God. 

·        Social: There is disharmony (rather than being peacemakers). Men and women hurt others. They distrust others, including God. They believe and trust only self. They react and attack. They withdraw from community and interaction. They hide behind a mask, a job, or a fence.

Third: How does personality fit into this picture? Assess these labels by God’s standard.

·    The Four Personality Theory (descriptions from Wikipedia)

  1. Sanguine personalities are impulsive and tend to seek out pleasure and social events. People with this personality type can be forgetful and have difficulty finishing tasks
  2. Choleric personalities tend to be leaders and are passionate. One negative quality is a tendency for sudden depression and mood swings.
  3. Melancholic personalities are independent and thoughtful, but they may dwell on the negative aspects of the world around them.
  4. Phlegmatic personalities tend towards being relaxed and showing affection. They also can be lazy or passive-aggressive when dealing with issues.

My response: No one tends to be an exact fit within these categories. But that discussion is not our main focus. After all, these categories are based only on observation. These categories do not tell us the WHY. And that question is critical to understanding people. If the four-personality-view of people is by God’s design, then we should accept the categories as sufficient help in understanding people. But the problem is that we find people accepting these personality labels while dismissing their sinful behaviors and sinful actions based on something they cannot change, personality.

Illustration: A woman in the church who has five boys screams at them because her personality doesn’t work well with all their wild behavior. So she excuses her anger and attacking words to her boys because of her personality.

My suggestion based on God’s commands and the above theology (Genesis and  Romans) is that we must never excuse disobedience to God under the guise of personality: “I yell at my kids because I’m sanguine.”  “I don’t clean the house because I am melancholy.” Therefore, we should call one another to change. Change what you call your personality. Become like Christ. In fact, we get into big trouble when we look at everyone else and think we should be like them. Whoever it is that you want to be like, they themselves are not the full image and likeness of God in their own personality.

Illustration: Someone claims to be melancholic. So when you point out the passages and verses on joy and hope in God, they respond by saying, “I’m just not a chipper kind of person. I’m low in emotion. I don’t get excited about stuff.” Okay. So we can just ignore these verses on joy and hope in God? Is it then okay to be gloomy in God? Paul had times that he was discouraged, but he was the one who called on us to rejoice. And he did so while in prison for Christ and for the gospel (check out the book of Philippians).

Someone else says, “I am just not the outgoing kind of person who can walk into a room and start talking to people. I mess it up. I am much better behind the scenes. Way behind the scenes. I do well on my own. I can spend hours away from people and that is fine with me. People are not enjoyable to be with anyway. I would rather be with my dogs hunting than hanging out and talking with people.” Yup. And so that kind of person is allowing the effects of the fall to drive his or her lifestyle and choices and ignore the demands and commands of God through the New Testament that are centered on community and family and doing the “one anothering” commands of Christ.

·    The Two Personality Type Theory (descriptions from Wikipedia)

Type A individuals are described as outgoing, ambitious, rigidly organized, highly status-conscious, sensitive, impatient, anxious, proactive, and concerned with time management. People with Type A personalities are often high-achieving “workaholics.” They push themselves with deadlines and hate both delays and ambivalence.

Type B individuals, by definition, are noted to live at lower stress levels. They typically work steadily, and may enjoy achievement, although they have a greater tendency to disregard physical or mental stress when they do not achieve. When faced with competition, they may focus less on winning or losing than their Type A counterparts, and more on enjoying the game regardless of winning or losing. Unlike the Type A personality’s rhythm of multi-tasked careers, Type B individuals are sometimes attracted to careers of creativity: writer, counselor, therapist, or actor. However, network and computer systems managers, professors, and judges are more likely to be Type B individuals as well. Their personal character may enjoy exploring ideas and concepts. They are often reflective, and think of the “outer and inner world.”

My response: Whichever end of the spectrum you happen to be on, you need to come to the middle where Christ is. He worked on this earth very diligently, but he did not ignore people. He did not destroy relationships because he was “driven” by the ideals of His Father’s kingdom. He instead was driven to draw people into the kingdom or warn them about rejecting it. He also met the needs of crowds, being compassionate towards others, not hiding away in an apartment. He could connect with one needy woman in the midst of the multitude while heading to care for a young girl on her deathbed who was all alone. In contrast, Jesus also did not just sit around shooting the breeze with the disciples all day while talking about how nice it will be to see the kingdom come. He did not hide out from the multitudes (on the mountain praying with His Father) and ignore the problems of the masses. When it was day and the responsibilities were evident, Jesus stepped up and got to work.

In conclusion, while the labels help us to identify simple variance in the definition of personality, that’s fine.  The goal of personality categorization may help us to identify our weaknesses and strengths, but the question is “What will we do with the assessment?” Will we hide behind our label, or will we pursue Christ-likeness where there are no weaknesses?

 

 

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